As thousands of students around Ireland get set to make sense of their Leaving Certificate results this Wednesday, August 15, Donegal life coach Margaret Ferry offers some helpful advice.
Exams are stressful, but did you imagine that waiting for the results was just as troublesome?
It’s understandable that you may be feeling anxious and alone. Replaying thoughts and words like; What if I fail? What if I don't get enough points? What if I need to repeat these exams, and I should have studied more, or I should have made more of an effort in class. Sounds familiar doesn’t it?
Then, following the results, more worrying thoughts like: I wonder if I made the correct choice on the C.A.O. form. Am I ready to leave home? Will I make new friends? Will I cope well with my course and college?
It’s important to know that you are not alone and unique in your fears, as 99.9% of leaving certificate students are thinking exactly what you are right now.
The above statements are only thoughts, albeit scary thoughts.
Replaying fearful thoughts over and over will cause anxiety and stress. Stop this unnecessary, unfair and untrue story. There is nothing you can do right now to change your results, but you can choose to take control of your thoughts. You can continue to frighten yourself OR you can choose to support yourself. Be kind to your mind, speak to yourself like you would speak to your best friend.
So what if you do have to repeat your exams or you don’t get the college of your choice? That just means there is a delay in your plans.
My message to you is: these results and these feelings are temporary, and what you are anticipating right now is much worse than reality. You can be or do anything you want.
Remember when opening that envelope - feel safe, stay calm and surround yourself with supportive friends and family.
Also, why not take a few minutes out to listen to the Baz Luhrmann’s Song 'Sunscreen'. My favourite lyrics are:
“Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life...
the most interesting people I know, didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives.
Some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know, still don't”