WOMEN’S LIVES: So, what do you do?

Finola Brennan


Finola Brennan

WOMEN’S LIVES: So, what do you do?
For the past month I have been out and about meeting women from diverse backgrounds, different countries of origin, all ages and all abilities in various parts of Donegal.

For the past month I have been out and about meeting women from diverse backgrounds, different countries of origin, all ages and all abilities in various parts of Donegal.

Women had been telling me they would really like something uplifting and some time out to look after themselves. With my thinking cap on and funds secured from Donegal Local development Company I remembered hearing about a retired registered physiotherapist from Dungloe called Helen Moore.

When I rang Helen she told me about a workshop she delivers, ’Be the best that you can be - with the body you’ve got, not the body you want’. I was sold!!!.... not only by the title but also Helen’s enthusiasm and her sense of humour which I can vouch, she carries into the workshop.

Everyone went home not only all armed with a mine of information on how to be the best that they can be, but also with a broad smile. This reminded me of how important it is to have and to nurture a good sense of humour no matter what the circumstances.

So for all you hard-working moms out there…..read on!

A few months ago, when I was picking up the children at school, another mother I knew well, rushed up to me. Emily was fuming with indignation.

“Do you know what you and I are?” she demanded.

Before I could answer - and I didn’t really have one handy - she blurted out the reason for her question. It seemed she had just returned from renewing her driver’s license at the County Clerk’s office. Asked by the woman recorder to state her “occupation,” Emily had hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.

“What I mean is,” explained the recorder, “Do you have a job, or are you just a ......?”

“Of course I have a job,” snapped Emily. “I’m a mother.”

“We don’t list ‘mother’ as an occupation...’housewife’ covers it,” said the recorder emphatically.

I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself in the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall. The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised, efficient, and possessed of a high-sounding title, like “Official Interrogator” or “Town Registrar.”

“And what is your occupation?” she probed.

What made me say it, I do not know. The words simply popped out. “I’m....a Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations.”

The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in mid-air, and looked up as though she had not heard right. I repeated the title slowly, emphasising the most significant words. Then I stared with wonder as my pompous pronouncement was written in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.

“Might I ask,” said the clerk with new interest, “just what you do in your field?”

Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice, I heard myself reply, “I have a continuing programme of research (what mother doesn’t) in the laboratory and in the field (normally I would have said indoors and out). I’m working for my Masters (the whole darned family) and already have four credits (all daughters).

Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities (any mother care to disagree?) and I often work 14 hours a day (24 is more like it). But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are in job satisfaction rather than just money.”

There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk’s voice as she completed the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.

As I drove into our driveway buoyed up by my glamorous new career, I was greeted by my lab assistants---age 13, 7, and 3. And upstairs, I could hear our new experimental model (six months) in the child-development programme, testing out a new vocal pattern.

I felt triumphant. I had scored a beat on bureaucracy. And I had gone down on the official records as someone more distinguished and indispensable to mankind than “just another......”

Home...what a glorious career. Especially when there’s a title on the door. (The GCFL.net)